My wife has what I would describe as a large vagina. We are not into fisting and sexually she has only had one partner which was just an overnight fling about 20 years ago when she was a teen, but her hole is quite large and it has always been this way. Having had two kids made no difference to the tightness of her pussy. I think she was just born with a large hole which by the way I adore.

Usually every second or third time we have sex I put 3-4 fingers inside her as the same time as my cock. A lot of the time my hand is in her to the palm without any discomfort. Sometimes she comes from this but not often. Other times I enter her along side a 2 inch silicone dildo which is a perfect fit but difficult to hold in place while pumping her. She is a vaginal orgasm girl and mainly comes during straight penetration. My cock is average at 6" and nothing special in width but is still does the trick every time and has done for almost 20 years. Sometimes I wear a 4" cock extender and she amazes me being able to take the entire length. Every time I wear it I can't believe my little shy wife can take something 10 inches long into her pussy without any effort. Sexually she is a shy girl not into porn etc and she really isn't aware just how amazing her vagina is, she isn't aware how unique her width and depth really are.

We started playing with large dildos about 12 months ago without much success. The biggest was The Great American Challenge and she got the head inside her but only with considerable discomfort. We are not into pain so never persisted with it. I never considered it to be too big but the shape and material were just not right for her. Before this I purchased some other large dildos and vibes which were uncomfortable and again I think it was more to do with the hardness of the material and general shape rather than the size, even though they all measured over 2.5 inches in width.

Along cam the BAM dildo which I just purchased and last night we tried. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=564Tqynwsqk Those who own this will appreciate the size. Finally I think I have found a winner. After about 5 minutes we had the BAM about 4 inches inside my wife and I was slowly pumping her with it. She didn't come but at least this time she wasn't in any major discomfort apart from letting me know it felt really huge and she could feel her pussy stretched very tightly around it . The softness of BAM seems to suit her pussy well and she looked amazing with this giant rubber cock opening her up to an unnatural size. We played with it for about 20 minutes and when I fucked her afterwards she felt incredible. I have never felt her so loose before and I while she didn't say I know I felt very small to her afterwards. I suspect she had some difficulty feeling my cock after fucking this huge toy and the idea of her not feeling me actually excited me (I find this strange). I had trouble holding my load the whole time because her looseness felt amazing. It was an incredible turn on fucking the woman I love with her hole so stretched and completely loose and slack.

I have asked her if she would make a conscious effort to stretch her pussy out and I suggested her fucking this toy daily for a month while I was at work. I suggested she do it alone because I though the self exploration might do her some good. She said she would try, her only concern is getting it in on her own because it was a bit of an effort and I controlled the insertion. If she can get it in I think she will spend 30 minutes a day fucking with it full well knowing this is only about expanding her pussy and making it looser and less tight during sex.

I have a few questions.

- Is it likely that 30 minutes a day for a month will make any noticeable changes to the size of her pussy? Personally I want her to be so loose that she can't feel me. I want her to crave the sensation of needing to be completely filled and visually I want to see her pussy gape like she is some loose looking just gangbanged slut. I want to look at the woman I love with her huge loose box needing more than I can give her. I want her to look at me without an ounce of self consciousness with her legs wide open and her cunt gaping all the time with no shame on her face that she has intentionally modified her most intimate area.
 
- She is not self conscious about the size of her pussy and knows how much I like it loose so there are currently no psychological concerns about the size of her vagina - but if stretching for a month does increase her looseness is this likely to be permanent? I know about kegels but if after a month she stopped and did nothing would it be likely that her pussy would return to normal in a short amount of time - say a few weeks?

I love my wife and still enjoy making love to her 3-4 times a week even after 20 years. She seems to support my request to intentionally stretch her vagina to the point where intercourse will likely not be as pleasurable for her once this stretching goal is accomplished. I would like some honest feedback in regards to when/if her hole increases in size- is this likely to be permanent? It will never bother me if her cunt stays large becuase I love her dearly and any physical contact with her is wonderful, but if for some reason she wants to return to the pre-stretched condition of her cunt I would like to know there is a reverse button to this type of body modification.

Attatched are a few pictures of her.

 

Hi there! It sounds like the two of you are having some fun going into new explorations. Hopefully some of the folks here can help shed a little light on your questions and give some good ideas for directions to go in. The knowledge here is amazing along with the open sense of honest sharing.
My first question to you is - how much is she personally into the things that you describe and desire?
This is something that can and will make a big difference in your experiences, to truly make changes and different types of physical development takes time and dedication. The dedication is the part that needs/should be something that she truly wants and desires, it's the journey that makes it all worth while as they say. It sounds as though she is willing, but there is a difference between being willing to try something and truly having desire for it. Open and very honest communication goes a really long way here, along with being able to truly listen to her. Playing with toys and especially fisting can be absolutely amazing experiences, desire is what makes or breaks just how amazing it is. You've expressed what your desires are, what are hers? Working intimately and honestly together and mutually supporting each other on the playground will do more than you can imagine. What she personally is really into is going to dictate where a lot of things go for you, you should have absolute respect for that - the more you express your interest in her true desires the more she will want to share them with you. I'm not trying to give any type of lecture here, just trying to give some insight on what can take the two of you from point a to z.
I'll try to help you a bit with some of your questions...  I have the absolute pleasure of my partner who has the desire I speak of, what we have experienced together has been absolutely mind-blowing in so many ways and seems to go into directions that is beyond my descriptive capabilities. We've gone from a point of starting with what we now consider to be smaller toys of 2.5" in diameter to now over 4 inches, from barely being able to fit a single fist into double fisting and beyond.  She has a large vagina although depth has always been an issue for us, about 8" seems to be the max there.  Our stretching adventures has been over a period of 3yrs now, and she feels better to me now than ever before.  I am as you are, average in size. After being stretched open she certainly feels different, however it's not as you describe where she can't feel me at all, actually it seems to be just the opposite in where she is more sensitive than ever and can feel every little move I make although it's not in a filling type of way. After playing and stretching she feels very loose but it is an amazing feeling for both of us.
Typically, the permanent changes aren't quite what you describe. She will become more accomodating to larger toys with more frequent use, key here is to understand how this works. What we are talking about here are muscles, the same as any other in your body. When you stretch them you are actually physically conditioning them, however they do not simply become loose and floppy. Think of a gymnast who twists and contorts their body and easily can do a split, typically they are in pretty damn good shape and certainly aren't flopping around anywhere. This is no different, the type of results you get will be better muscle tone, control, responsiveness, ect... These are all good things, believe me! The loose, gaping open experience is there to be had but it is in the moment so to speak, and in a relaxed state things will return to normal so to speak. You can expect that her lips may become a bit fuller and it will get easier and easier to stretch her wide but the physical appearance doesn't make the dramatic changes that you speak of. Not trying to rain on any parade, just trying to give you a clear idea of what the reality of things are. The upside is that most likely she will gain sensation, not lose it which is an experience you don't want to miss out on!
As for toys to play with, a small step up from Bam is the Chi-Chi La Rue Black Balled that can be found on bigsextoystore.com - fantastic feel to it with plenty of give. We also highly recommend J-lube which lasts forver and can be mixed to just about any consistency, check out the thread on it along with the thread on poppers which are also great for stretching to new horizons!
Hope this little bit of input helps you out and remember to give respect to her desires, it always pays in droves...

- Tech

My experience from fisting my wife (and using very thick dildos) for almost a decade is that she has become tighter, but she has simultaneously become more able to quickly accomodate a fist or a very thick dildo. She never gapes after fisting. Her vagina immediately closes completely at the moment i pull my hand out. When I insert my cock, it is also very evident that the muscles around her vagina have grown larger. Her hole really feels "meaty" and the pressure on my cock is considerable. I love the feeling, and the knowledge that she can easily stretch to accomodate something very big is adds to the excitement.

Now, every woman is unique, so your wife may react differently to the kind of "exercises" you describe. However, I don't think my wife would get a vagina of the kind you describe, unless she on a daily basis carries a wide object in her vagina for hours. I presume that would be quite uncomfortable.

Kind of surprising that you can fit your cock and four fingers in her at the same time but she cant take a fist. Maybe its the mental part or the method\

I had my former wife in the same situation with being major open on sex but not being able to take the fist. We did however practice stretching during a longer period of time and managed to stretch the opening by several inches during a 2 month time.  Having two kids before it was alot easier to stretch. She is not very big but normal size woman with a normal depth and the same gos for me. I had her insert different size vegetables that she later " gave birth to every evening " . At the end she could take the fist and we actually saw she was gaping. Before we divorced she would crave to be fisted before sex, we had actually increased her pussy by 30%, the lips had stretched to most. I asked her a couple of weeks back if she was still stretched after leaving two years ago and she said yes. She said once stretched and gapped its hard to to back to being normal it doesn't feel the same no matter the size cock.

What we learned was to stretch backwards toward the anus you will gain alot of inches there, in my opinion every normal size woman can stretch at least a fist no matter what.   

good luck