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« on: November 12, 2011, 06:45:08 pm » |
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How can I get my fiance to fist me? I am very shy and I can't bring myself to ask him about it. Right now he can fir 2 or 3 fingers inside of me during foreplay.. Do you think he would be interested in going further? I'm 20 years old, tall (5'8"), thin, and I've never had any children, How long would it take to be able to stretch my pussy enough to fit his fist inside? Also I still want my pussy to stay tight... Is that even possible? I'm so frustrated that I'm too shy to bring this up with him, and sometimes I feel jealous about other girls being able to do it  . Any input would be greatly appreciated, thanx so much!!!! Also, I'm an ebony girl  .
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« Reply #1 on: November 12, 2011, 06:53:49 pm » |
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...and my fiance is white
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« Reply #2 on: November 13, 2011, 01:41:42 am » |
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maybe just ask for more (fingers) while he is fingering you during foreplay, staying tight is mostly a matter of pelvic floor work outs
another thought for testing the waters is maybe watch some porn with him and throw in a fisting clip and ask him if he things its hot or turns him on
how long will it take is always hard to say, factors like how often and long you work on streching, your own body and even just how relaxed you are can change how long it takes, some days Mrs W is so nice and relaxed i can fist her almost straight away whilst other times if shes stressed about things it takes over an hour to get my fiist in if at all
i think most people have much more kink than most people realise, its just that they are not true to themselves little alone others in expressing thier feelings as socioty places such stigma on these things but i'm getting off topic now
hope you get what you want. Mr Wolfy
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« Reply #3 on: November 13, 2011, 06:23:23 am » |
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make it a suprise slowly stretch your self out and when you can finaly take it all when he is fingering you ask for more and more then force your self down on his hand and force it in let it be a suprise to him. or at least i think that would be a fun way.
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« Reply #4 on: November 13, 2011, 06:01:34 pm » |
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maybe just ask for more (fingers) while he is fingering you during foreplay, staying tight is mostly a matter of pelvic floor work outs
another thought for testing the waters is maybe watch some porn with him and throw in a fisting clip and ask him if he things its hot or turns him on
how long will it take is always hard to say, factors like how often and long you work on streching, your own body and even just how relaxed you are can change how long it takes, some days Mrs W is so nice and relaxed i can fist her almost straight away whilst other times if shes stressed about things it takes over an hour to get my fiist in if at all
i think most people have much more kink than most people realise, its just that they are not true to themselves little alone others in expressing thier feelings as socioty places such stigma on these things but i'm getting off topic now
hope you get what you want. Mr Wolfy
Last night when we did it, he used two fingers, I was hoping for a third, but I was too shy to ask him, I think I will try the porn flix and see if he likes it, omg I'm nervous just thinking about it . I've tried to practice stretching before (almost a year ago for about 2 months), I will try to post pix of me squirting and stretching later, the biggest I got was being able to fit 4 of my fingers easily, but now it seems like I've closed back up again. If I practice stretching every day and try to stay relaxed, how long do you think it will take to be open enough? I wish I could express my sexual and "kinky" *blush* feelings more easily also. Thank you so much Wolfy!!!! xoxoxo |
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« Reply #5 on: November 13, 2011, 06:06:40 pm » |
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make it a suprise slowly stretch your self out and when you can finaly take it all when he is fingering you ask for more and more then force your self down on his hand and force it in let it be a suprise to him. or at least i think that would be a fun way.
I will try to stretch myself solo, but I really have my heart set on him doing most of the stretching for me, so that we can both share the experience. His hands are big or medium-large size for a guy so I don't want to force myself down on him and hurt myself lol, but the idea of just taking him by surprise is entertaining. Thank you for your input!!! xoxoxo |
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« Reply #6 on: November 14, 2011, 07:47:49 pm » |
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If its just the 2 of you maby leave this post open on your computer and let him see it kind of a woopse did not meen to see it and see where it goes from there.
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« Reply #7 on: November 15, 2011, 02:43:04 am » |
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You ever read or listen to Dan Savage of Savage Love? He has two crucial insights for your situation:
1. this is your fiance. If you can't talk to him now about what you want/desire, when will you be able to talk about this stuff? The worst case scenario here is that he freaks out and dumps you. And if that happens, good riddance. If fisting is important to you (and it sounds like it is) you don't want to sign on for a lifetime with a guy who would leave you if he ever found out you were into it.
2. when people have a kink, they often feel ashamed of it, and this means they can only imagine talking about it as if it were a terrible confession. Here's how Dan would put it: "Don't say, 'I'm into stretching' the way you'd say 'I have cancer.' Roll it out as good news: 'You're a very lucky boy. I'm so hungry for you I want your whole hand inside of me.' And chances are he'll leap at the opportunity."
Let me tell you now: there are plenty of boys who would love to stretch you out. Chances are very good your fiance is one of them. And if he isn't, better to find that out now than to wait and find it out after you're hitched up in marriage.
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« Reply #8 on: November 15, 2011, 05:39:08 pm » |
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If its just the 2 of you maby leave this post open on your computer and let him see it kind of a woopse did not meen to see it and see where it goes from there.
lol that's a good idea too. Thank you!! xoxo |
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« Reply #9 on: November 15, 2011, 06:10:42 pm » |
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You ever read or listen to Dan Savage of Savage Love? He has two crucial insights for your situation:
1. this is your fiance. If you can't talk to him now about what you want/desire, when will you be able to talk about this stuff? The worst case scenario here is that he freaks out and dumps you. And if that happens, good riddance. If fisting is important to you (and it sounds like it is) you don't want to sign on for a lifetime with a guy who would leave you if he ever found out you were into it.
2. when people have a kink, they often feel ashamed of it, and this means they can only imagine talking about it as if it were a terrible confession. Here's how Dan would put it: "Don't say, 'I'm into stretching' the way you'd say 'I have cancer.' Roll it out as good news: 'You're a very lucky boy. I'm so hungry for you I want your whole hand inside of me.' And chances are he'll leap at the opportunity."
Let me tell you now: there are plenty of boys who would love to stretch you out. Chances are very good your fiance is one of them. And if he isn't, better to find that out now than to wait and find it out after you're hitched up in marriage.
Omg. I don't even know who Dan Savage is, even though I think I've heard about him before, I will have to look him up.
So I sent him links to some porn clips from xhamster while he was at his office yesterday morning when I was at home from work, and in the email I asked him if he would enjoy doing some of those activities with me. I was folding some clothes when I heard him open the front door... and this was around 11:30 a.m. , he was excited and his cock was rock hard through his jeans lol. We ended up having wild sex for an hour, then he went back to work. The best part was when he licked my pussy he finally tried to put in 4 fingers (but it hurt me so he used 3 again). He texted me when he got back to work and told me to wear heels and a g-string, nothing else... the thought of this got my heart racing. Anyway when he got back I made dinner and we did the same activities and he ordered some toys and a new sterling collar (yeah he's pretty dominant, but very gentle and sweet). We are already pretty close ( we know everything about eachother.., and yes, I mean everything!!!) so he said I should've told him sooner! he couldn't stop saying how lucky he is either. I'm glad I finally told him, gosh it was so much easier than I thought it would it would be.
Thank you Truly! You were so right!!!! xoxox |
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« Reply #10 on: November 15, 2011, 07:36:26 pm » |
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Its great to hear that everything is working out for you. Its always a great thing when to people can have and share so much
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« Reply #11 on: November 15, 2011, 08:03:45 pm » |
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Its great to hear that everything is working out for you. Its always a great thing when to people can have and share so much
Awwwh.. Thank you!!! xoxo  |
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« Reply #12 on: November 15, 2011, 08:32:50 pm » |
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Good move!
Have lot's of fun!!!!!
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« Reply #13 on: November 15, 2011, 08:42:09 pm » |
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Woohoo another success story glad to hear it best of luck. K+++
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« Reply #14 on: November 15, 2011, 08:55:25 pm » |
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What type of toys did you order? If you don't mind me asking
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