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« Reply #30 on: November 27, 2011, 05:38:33 am » |
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So how has everything went any more progress?
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« Reply #31 on: November 29, 2011, 05:17:08 am » |
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I'd love to see some of your pictures. Can I have the password to your blog?
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« Reply #32 on: December 22, 2011, 03:35:53 pm » |
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Hi guys/gals  . I havent been on this site for a while but everything is going sooo slowly lol, but he can fit 4 fingers in now, and it takes a while just to get four inside. I havent made a blogspot page yet and I doubt that i will  , sry, just not enough time in the day/night it seems like, but my sweetie and I have been experimenting with anal sex, I like it . He is very dominant when we are having sex, but gentle, but a couple of days ago we had rough anal sex/ rough fellatio/ hair pulling etc and i never thought that I would squirt so much from getting penetrated anally, but I think this is some of the best sex that we've ever had  Omg I will let you all know when he can finally fit his whole fist in. maybe kegels are preventing a faster progress? anyway i hope you all are doing well, xoxo
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« Reply #33 on: January 11, 2012, 10:03:44 am » |
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Fantastic post Shygirl. Please continue to let us know as you go along
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« Reply #34 on: January 12, 2012, 11:55:30 pm » |
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This thread is so hot.. loved watching the progress from wanting it, to actually getting it.
I remember when i told my boyfriend I liked fisting.. it was really sexy. We were out to lunch and I made a little gesture of one hand fucking my other hand.. his jaw dropped and he was really surprised. But he said he thought it was really hot.. now he fists me nearly every time we have sex. He fucks me til he feels he could cum, then he pulls out, fists me for awhile til I'm oozing, then he fucks me til we both cum.
Fisting is so romantic too.. sounds like its brought you closer together. Congrats again!
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« Reply #35 on: January 29, 2012, 01:04:02 am » |
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I am going to throw out a suggestion.
I suggest, that you have a conversation, a whole back and forth thing, discussing the matter as openly as you can.
the GOAL of the conversation, being:
1) making sure you are both on *PRECISELY* the same page as far as what you want.
2) ironing out any uncertanties on EITHER side.
once THAT is done, assuming the mutual goals are around the same to start with, even if it hasn't been openly discussed, it flows into:
3) clearly, and CERTAINLY stating that you BOTH want to pursue this. clarifying things.
that he makes it crytal clear and unequivocal that he wants to stretch you to take his fist(or whatever the same-page-ness boil down to) and that he is ok with you doing so.
and that YOU make it crystal clear to HIM, and unequivocal that you want him to stretch you... <ect>
once that reassurance, in BOTH directions has been made, THEN I would suggest making a "procedure", where he does a certain sequence of things, or you do, or together you do, whatever, (be it tying you down in a certain way, or playing with your pussy a certain way, or both, or whatever works for you) that signals in a unique way "right now I want to work on stretching/fisting you, it is ok to relax and let it happen, this is what I want to happen right now" that way theres NO doubt for you, as to what he wants in the moment.
when my slave and I did more or less what I have described, it basically made a huge leap forward in progress, and laid the path to make all the progress we have since we started being interested in fisting. the psychological certainty of knowing that I want it, that I am ok/want her to want it, and all that... and that in that moment, I want her to, made an enormous amount of difference.
well... now, our last session she was able to take a soda can essentially all the way in(past the lips, though not to the "vanished into a void" state) and was able to be fucked with a different toy slightly thicker than that, and withstand it being there (the can as well) for like 10 minutes or more, without significant/negative pain.
oh, also might want to try the other hand... I've found my off-hand, for fisting, behaves as though it were slightly smaller. I suspect since I am less precise with it, it tends to be a little weaker, and more prone to just kinda go with things, where my dominant hand tries to be in control more. or something.
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« Reply #36 on: January 30, 2012, 02:58:31 am » |
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( Sorry I haven't been here in a while, I lost my password and couldn't sign in lol) Ok.. Quick Update: Rather uneventful in the fisting realm of my sex life ( my s.o. asked me if I wanted to try today, but I declined... he was able to use his usual 2-3 fingers though, and then we went on to oral). Maybe we will try soon when I'm in the mood, he's always asking about it though lol. We've been exploring other things, but it seems like we've hit a plateau... I do want him to be more dominant though....
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« Reply #37 on: January 30, 2012, 10:13:49 am » |
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...and my fiance is white Where did that come from?  |
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« Reply #38 on: January 30, 2012, 11:05:16 pm » |
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. maybe kegels are preventing a faster progress?
Yes, I'd say your kegels are slowing u down, while he's got you @ your limit, try a "reverse kegel" ...just relaxing the region as opposed to contracting......if you gain any progress, lay off the kegels for a while,, you just got stretched out & contracting those muscles in the following days are just drawing it all back in (re-tightening) hence, you gotta start all over again, get where you want to be(ie: fisted) & able to do it comfortably, then do your kegels....in the mean time, you might wanna try fisting yourself now & then to get used to the sensation & using your own smaller may be able to get you past your sticking point - same thing though, find your limits & progress slowly, you'll be there by summer!  |
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« Reply #39 on: February 11, 2012, 10:50:10 pm » |
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« Reply #40 on: February 11, 2012, 11:05:40 pm » |
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. maybe kegels are preventing a faster progress?
Yes, I'd say your kegels are slowing u down, while he's got you @ your limit, try a "reverse kegel" ...just relaxing the region as opposed to contracting......if you gain any progress, lay off the kegels for a while,, you just got stretched out & contracting those muscles in the following days are just drawing it all back in (re-tightening) hence, you gotta start all over again, get where you want to be(ie: fisted) & able to do it comfortably, then do your kegels....in the mean time, you might wanna try fisting yourself now & then to get used to the sensation & using your own smaller may be able to get you past your sticking point - same thing though, find your limits & progress slowly, you'll be there by summer! Oh No!! I've already spent a small fortune on jade eggs and ben wa balls, I would hate to retire them, I will try to stop doing them for a week or so and see how things pan out, because I really don't want to be stretched out beyond repair lol! I just want to stay as tight as possible while still being able to enjoy fisting one day.... I just can not see myself getting past 3 comfortably, 4 even hurts. My fiance is 6'4 though so i thinks his hands are definitely larger than average. I can't fist myself , I'm very flexible but it just never works out from any position and I don't know any girls who are into this type of thing, plus being with anyone else would constitute stepping out on the relationship in my fiances pov. Thank you all for the pointers Can't it until V-Day !  |
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Theirs nothing sinister about using your left hand
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« Reply #41 on: February 12, 2012, 02:28:10 am » |
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The main thing is to make sure your relaxed and not hurried. Let a session last a 2 or 3 hours if it helps. Also your lube may be to thin. When going into a tight spot, it can be almost wiped off by whoever is receiving. I always found breath control helps considerably and helps you get in tune with your whole body. I know you're eager but you WILL get there in the end. Just remember it's supposed to be fun getting to your goal, and so enjoy the ride.
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« Reply #42 on: February 14, 2012, 09:43:42 am » |
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Don't worry, you won't get stretched out beyond repair....don't forget, the pussy is made to let a baby pass through there!:) That's the best advise, is to take your time & work it for 2-3 hrs per session....you definitely have to be patient.....& just lay off the eggs for a while leading up to the days you're going for the fisting session...again, don't worry, you will actually find more pussy control after it stretches out a bit more (your muscle range will broaden) & @ 6'4" he's prob got a bigger hands than the average guy, so, if this is something you really want, you're gonna have to loosen up a little bit Another thing you can try is get yourself a large(wide) dildo..BAM , is a good starter, ("Hung" is the white version if you have a color preference), you'll want to use this on your own until you're comfortable with it (couple times a week & the day before you let him try)....after you get to that point, you should be able to work your own hand inside, then you can work from there- so far everybody has given pretty good advise, you just have to figure out how much you really want it & what you're willing to do to make it happen....chances are, you're gonna have to go outside your "comfort zone" to get there Here's a link to the Hung Dong (on Amazon{least expensive}), you can start w/smaller ones but, like your eggs you'll be spending a small fortune. http://www.amazon.com/Doc-Johnson-Hung-Attachment-Black/dp/B004HCCWRQ/ref=sr_1_2?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1329207948&sr=1-2another thing you can do to relax those muscles is try some poppers before & during your sessions, they are relatively cheap & safe....plenty of great info on the site here to guide you on that too, check out the poppers thread, top of the page, in the same section as this thread (be sure to read up on it before using them)..Good luck & enjoy |
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